Years ago, discipline used to be so harsh that it at times would have been considered child abuse. Now, in our culture, we are so afraid of damaging our children that we wonder if we can even use discipline. Today we talk to two therapists to learn what evidence shows about discipline. If you’ve been worried at all about discipline, you’ll want to listen to this episode.More
If you’ve been looking for ways to help your kids manage their anger, look no further! This episode is jam-packed with tools designed to help your child recognize and manage their anger in a healthy way.
There are many factors that influence our children’s behavior that are out of our control. However, we are lucky that there are some factors that are in our control. In this week’s and next week’s episode, we will teach you some fundamentals to creating an environment which fosters good behavior. If some of these fundamentals are missing, it’s not really fair to expect our kids to behave well.
Listen this week and next week to learn what you can do to help your children behave their best.
To check out Part 2, go here.
So this is going to be a shorter training today to give you one specific tool to start implementing right away and start to see results. But let me tell you a little why I wanted to use this.
I recently read a really popular parenting book that is SO good in SO many ways. However, it suggests using a couple warnings before you follow through so that your child has a chance to change their behavior. When I read it, I thought “This sounds really great and I’m going to start using this in my home.” We started using it and we saw really good results pretty quickly. But then after a couple of weeks we literally started hearing our kids say, “Oh, you get to ask me one more time before I have to do it.”
I thought, “No! That is not the point of this.”
Today, Jeff Tesch, LMFT is going to teach us why warnings are sabotaging our parenting and what we should do instead.More
If you are dealing with behavior that never seems to improve, you’re in the right place.
As parents of strong-willed kids, there can be a possibility that your child is dealing with an abnormality in their functioning. They could have inherited or developed anxiety, ADHD, depression, or autism, just to name a few. A professional’s help is needed to get a clear diagnosis.
We often get asked: “How do I know if I need to seek professional help for my child? Where do I go if I do think they need professional help?”
We seek to answer both those questions and more in today’s episode.
Our world is full of tragedies, natural disasters, and violence. It isn’t uncommon for these events to frighten our children or cause an increase in their anxiety. With so many such events occurring recently, we wanted to create a podcast that would coach parents through talking to kids about tragedies and helping them feel calm after they’ve occurred.
I learned so many new things recording this episode that will forever change how I handle tragedies with my kids.More
According to marriage and family therapist and researcher, Jon Gottman, in order for you to have a healthy relationship with your child you need to have FIVE positive interactions to every ONE negative interaction. It’s kind of like a bank account, positive interactions count as deposits and negative interactions count a big withdrawals. It’s pretty easy to have a healthy positive:negative ratio with kids who behave really well, but what about the ones that need correction often?
In today’s episode, Jeff Tesch, LMFT teaches how to connect with your child while you correct them. The techniques taught in this episode will help your disciplining count as a positive for both of you! How awesome is that?
Am I alone? Or is your authority also challenged at least once an hour? Challenging authority is a common characteristic of strong-willed kids, but it’s not one that we need to just put up with. In today’s episode, Jeff Tesch LMFT teaches how to handle kids who challenge your authority in the healthiest way.More
I have to admit that one of the things that’s been really tough for me is feeling a deep connection with my kids when they are misbehaving. Their misbehavior frustrates me and sometimes gets me to the point that even though I love them, I don’t like being around them.
A little while ago, marriage and family therapist, Jeff Tesch taught me about something called “Play Therapy”. Play therapy has been proven to be one of the most effective ways for a therapist to help a child heal from deep traumas. Additionally, a simplified version of it can be used at home to connect with ANY child, which leads to improved behavior, and has the added perk of improving a child’s ability to concentrate for longer periods of time!
In today’s episode, Jeff Tesch, LMFT teaches ALL OF US how to use play therapy in our own homes. I have been using it for the last couple of weeks and have been amazed at the results. I have seen improved behavior, I have felt deeply connected to my kids, I have genuinely loved being around them, and so much more. Now, whenever a child’s behavior seems to start regressing, I take some time to do this “at home play therapy” with them and I see results really quickly. It’s been a game changer.
Using consequences effectively (learn more about that here and here) is one of the best ways to improve behavior, but it’s not the only way. Evidence has shown positive reinforcement to be an effective way to help our kids behave better and develop a deep sense of self-esteem. As a parent, I know that I want both of those things.
Listen as Jeff Tesch, LMFT teaches the most effective way to use positive reinforcement in your home. Many of the techniques are things you can start today!