consequences

Episode 060: How to Handle Meltdowns

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Strong-willed kids have a lot of frustrating behaviors. For me though, meltdowns are one of the most challenging behaviors. I want to cry in a corner because my child’s totally out of control with emotions. I am usually left with a lot of questions; “What do I need to do to help my child manage their emotions better?”, “What can I do to weather the storm of their emotions in a healthier way?”, and “What’s even going on? Why are they doing this?”

So we’re here with marriage and family therapist, Jeff Tesch to talk about all things meltdown.

Episode 059: How to Handle Misbehavior When You’re Not at Home.

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Do you ever feel apprehensive to go into public with your kids? Are you nervous they’re going to misbehave at the store or during a play date? I have been there. That’s why we’re talking to Child & Family Studies major AND mom of six, Laura Tesch today.

Laura has had a lot of experience being in public with misbehaving kids. She’s also learned a lot over the years. Here are her favorite tips and tricks!

Episode 056: “I’ve Told You a Million Times!” Why Asking Over and Over Again Isn’t Working and What To Do Instead

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Today we interview marriage and family therapist, Jeff Tesch to talk about something that is SO frustrating to SO many parents. In fact, we have some questions that we ask parents who enter our private Facebook group (You’re welcome to join, too!) to figure out what struggles they’re facing with their strong willed child. Over and over again we see that parents have asked their kids to stop a certain behavior or to do something the parent has asked and the child’s behavior simply isn’t changing.

Here’s what Jeff Tesch teaches about why our words aren’t working and what to do instead.

Episode 055: No Consequence Works. What Do I Do Now?

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Research shows that one of the best ways to train a child out of a negative behavior is to give the child an appropriate consequence when they use inappropriate behaviors. But what do you do if no consequence seems to work?! This is not an uncommon scenario for parents of strong-willed kids. Today, we again interview two therapists Stephanie Carbajal, LCSW and Mike Fitch, CMHC to ask what they tell their clients who are having a hard time finding an effective consequence.

Episode 054: Does Discipline Damage?

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Years ago, discipline used to be so harsh that it at times would have been considered child abuse. Now, in our culture, we are so afraid of damaging our children that we wonder if we can even use discipline. Today we talk to two therapists to learn what evidence shows about discipline. If you’ve been worried at all about discipline, you’ll want to listen to this episode.More

Episode 053: Evidence-Based Discipline That’s Been PROVEN to Work

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One of the most common questions parents ask is “What discipline approach will actually be effective for my strong willed child?” Luckily, there have been decades of research on that topic and there is answer. Today, Jeff Tesch LMFT teaches us what discipline has been PROVEN to work with our kids!

Episode 052: Teaching Your Kids to Accept the Word “No”

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If you have a child that does NOT like the word “NO” then you’ll want to give this episode a listen. This is the last episode in this month’s series “Emotional Life Skills for the Strong Willed Child” and will help you know how to respond to kids who may whine, complain, or throw a fit when you tell them “No”. Clinical mental health counselor, Mike Fitch shares his best tips for handling this issue.More

Episode 047: A Simple Secret to Improving Your Child’s Behavior Without Loosing Your Mind

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So many people join our private Facebook group completely overwhelmed by their strong-willed child’s behavior, knowing that they want to change their child’s behavior, but not knowing where to start.

Luckily, we have Jeff Tesch, LMFT to teach us a simple secret designed to help us improve our children’s behavior without loosing our minds!

Episode 046: Without This Behavior WILL NOT Change

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If you are not consistent, it does not matter what else you do. This was a truth I was surprised to learn while recording this episode of the podcast. You could be using great techniques, but if you’re not consistent, negative behavior will not improve. If you and your spouse/partner parent differently, your child’s behavior will not improve. If you switch your approach frequently, your child’s behavior will not improve.

Listen to this episode to learn why consistency is critical and how to become consistent enough to see positive changes in your child’s behavior.More

Episode 045: The Parenting Mistake Therapists are Seeing and How to Fix It

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Today we are going to talk to Jeff Tesch about a common parenting mistake therapists are seeing and how to fix it. This mistake is one that parents make completely on accident, but it’s having a huge effect of our kid’s behavior.

The great thing is that after this episode, you’ll know what it is, what to do differently, and you’ll see positive results in your family as a result.